Apr 2, 2021
Rob and Tami answer some of your burning questions about addiction, building intimacy, and the steps needed to fully heal from your past traumas and wounds. If you don’t work on yourself, then you will forever be caught in an ‘addiction’ cycle where you just replace one drug for the next.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] What’s the difference between how sex addicts fall in love vs. non-sex addicts?
[2:35] What is avoidant attachment style?
[4:50] Want something different? You have to take a step into vulnerability.
[6:15] Addicts cut themselves off from the love they might get.
[8:25] Rob has worked with crack addicts who have taken their child’s college fund to go buy drugs.
[10:10] Just because you’ve stopped drinking and acting out of your marriage, that doesn’t mean the other problems are fixed.
[12:45] If you don’t work on yourself, then you’re just playing whack-a-mole on your addictions.
[13:40] How long till ‘no empathy’ becomes a red flag?
[18:30] You’re the person closest to him, which means you’re the scariest person to him.
[22:25] Do sex addicts repeat things in therapy like a parrot but don’t fully ‘understand’ what they’re saying yet?
[26:00] What are the stages of healing?
[29:50] No one can force an addict to cheat or not cheat. They are responsible for their actions.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss