Sep 29, 2021
Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a distressed betrayed spouse. Despite being sober for eight months, her addict is still hanging out with the same crowd. What does this mean? Is he strong enough to not act out again? She feels uneasy and Dr. Rob and Tami both agree on why.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] How important is it for a sex addict to analyse their arousal template?
[3:25] My addict has been sober for eight months but still socializes with a bad crowd. What do I do?
[6:15] After discovery, I was diagnosed with HPV. How do I move forward with physical intimacy?
[9:10] Why do addicts shame spirals all the time?
[11:10] My husband has no empathy and does not understand why I don’t want him hanging around his enabler friends. What do I do?
[14:35] As a betrayed spouse, don’t be afraid to call up your addict’s therapist and just talk to them!
[17:35] Addicts are not very good at not doing things. They’re better at doing things. So you need to set up boundaries around that.
[21:50] Are sex addicts also love addicts?
[24:55] The addictions are just the tip of the iceberg. You have to dive deeper to really see what’s underneath.
[27:55] At what point in the sex addiction cycle does an addict experience the high?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss